Talk about it



My posts about suicide get the least looks, likes, and shares.  I understand that the topic is not “fun” to read about and can even be uncomfortable.  But it is so so so so important!  Unfortunately, an event in my home town and two in my current town (and actually 30,000 per year in the U.S.) have prompted me to post this again.  And my pledge is to post it more often and to include some reference about suicide in all of my newsletters.  

This might be the most important message I can share:  

You CAN (and should) talk about suicide!  You will NOT encourage someone to do it by talking about it.  It is quite the opposite really.  If someone doesn’t want to hurt or kill themselves, talking about it will NOT make them want to.  If someone is thinking about it, talking about it may allow them to see that someone is available to support them without shame or judgment.  

We talk about self defense and how to protect ourselves from harm from others, so.... why wouldn't we do the same regarding self harm or suicide???

You may just save a life by talking about it.

My drive is to help others start, if you haven’t already, having open conversations about emotions, moods, depression, support, and suicide.  I will be updating the blog often to have more information about myths and facts as well as links to other articles and resources.  Please reach out if you would like more information, to talk, or help in finding a local support.    


The beauty of EMDR

This weekend something so powerful occurred in my office and I have to share! 

I have a client who has completed several EMDR sessions.  (If you'd like more of an idea of what these sessions are like, I will soon be posting a video series!)  She has processed a significant amount of messages throughout her childhood that she is not loveable, that she must earn love, that she is not good enough.  We moved on to installing her positive belief system- I am loveable, I am enough.  She got a bit stuck in her childhood because she could still feel her parents presence and their negative messages.  I asked her what she needed to be able to help her get unstuck.  She said that she wanted to tell herself the positive messages.  So we started some bilateral stimulation....    

Organically and naturally, this session became about this client "re-parenting" her childhood self.  She went through the memories surfacing from infancy to adolescence and allowed her adult self to tell her childhood self, "You are not bad", "You are okay, we are okay".  As the sets continued, she began to see herself supporting her childhood self, such as attending one of her school performances.  She felt herself hold her childhood self's hand and hug her childhood self.  

It was remarkable. Powerful. Amazing.  She gave herself what she did not receive as a child. This is what EMDR does that traditional talk therapy cannot.  When allowed, the brain and body give a person exactly what they need to heal.   

Feel free to contact me for more information, resources, and/or a demonstration of EMDR.   

Follow up to this blog:  my client said she had an AMAZING week!  Any time she had a rough moment she used her visualization from last session to help her through.  Her self care also skyrocketed this week- exercise, healthy eating, and taking time for herself.  So thrilled for her!

Posted on March 29, 2015 and filed under EMDR, PTSD.